I'm a little behind the eight ball here, but i am currently in the middle of Sheryl Sandberg's book, Lean In. I know you either love or hate the mantra's that this book sings, I am in the former camp.
I find it articulates many of the obstacles and thought patterns I have as a woman doing business in a world that is engulfing, oh i mean corporate, that is a corporate world.
A few quotes stuck out, this is one, and it's about having it all
"I have never met a woman, or man, who has stated emphatically, "Yes, I have it all." Because no matter what any of us has - and how grateful we are for what we have - no one has it all. Nor can we.
The very concept of having it all flies in the face of the basic laws of economics and common sense. As Sharon Poczter, a professor of economics at Cornell, explains;
"The antiquated rhetoric of 'having it all' disregards the basis of every economic relationship: the idea of trade-offs.
All of us are dealing with the constrained optimisation that is life, attempting to maximise our utility based on parameters like career, kids, relationships, etc., doing our best to allocate the resource of time. Due to the scarcity of this resource, therefore, none of us can 'have it all,' and those who claim to are most likely lying" "
I balance work and creativity constantly - both compete for time resource; one is far more inflexible than the other and start up creative endeavours carry huge opportunity costs. Swap out creativity for your passion and you face the same dilemma - we just have to try our best to accommodate, and this is the challenge that makes both work and play rewarding in the long run.